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I realized today that a lot of my friends don't know about what I've gone through this year.

Last year in June I moved back to Minnesota to look after my dad. My mom was in the hospital for a month and then moved to a nursing home with sudden-onset dementia (B1 deficiency) secondary to cancer.

I intended to support them temporarily but decided to make it a more permanent move to support them and their many animals. I struggled and kept expecting other family members to step up, but they did not.

I was hospitalized in May 2025 after a seizure. (Two seizures in 3 years means a new diagnosis of epilepsy.) I am missing about a week or 2 of memories from directly after that experience, so I don't know for sure what happened. I was busy looking after my dad and the animals, and then coordinating a move for my parents into assisted living, which I mostly did myself, While recovering from a seizure, with a broken rib.

I don't know why-- again, I don't remember (likely from medication side effects), but no one from the family came to help me directly after the seizure. My dad (who has dementia) and I did it alone. I'm angry about it and need people to know.

I supported my family for a year and half and did not receive any funds, no salary, very little emotional or logistical help from my brother, his wife, or his 4 healthy teenage kids. There is a wider extended family and they didn't show up either. We got some occasional visits but it wasn't enough.

Since moving my parents into assisted living, I have continued to support them in many ways, including looking after their farm and animals, again with no funds.

This week I asked my brother to help me advocate with my dad, to get me some money. He said no. He believes we should sell the farm (where I am now living). He made no mention of any provisions for me.

I'm obviously very upset, but the anger is at least helping me communicate about what is happening. I am reaching out to friends and various family members and trying to raise the alarm to protect myself.

I am safe for the time being but it is not the best idea for me to be living alone. I had intended to find roommates to come live here with me, but there are some barriers, including me not being the property owner, and the house being a bit of a mess. My next step is to directly talk to my parents about this situation. They both have dementia but I think they are capable of understanding my position.

I am currently unsure what the best course of action is moving forward. But I at least want folks to know what is going on. It's been very helpful to talk on the phone with friends who are affirming to me that this is a fucked up way to be treated. It's been a bitter pill to swallow, realizing that my family is exploiting me.

Warm thoughts, mail, messages are all helpful.

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This is a horrible situation to be in.
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Kendzior Case-Study

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There was recently a flurry of attention and dismay over Sarah Kendzior having been suspended from Bluesky by its moderation system. Since the state of the art in trust and safety is evolving fast, this is worth a closer look. In particular, Mastodon has a really different approach, so let’s see how the Kendzior drama would have played out there.

Disclosures · I’m a fan of Ms Kendzior, for example check out her recent When I Loved New York; fine writing and incisive politics. I like the Bluesky experience and have warm feelings toward the team there, although my long-term social media bet is on Mastodon. ¶

Back story · Back in early October, the Wall Street Journal published It’s Finally Time to Give Johnny Cash His Due, an appreciation for Johnny’s music that I totally agreed with. In particular I liked its praise for American IV: The Man Comes Around which, recorded while he was more or less on his deathbed, is a masterpiece. It also said that, relative to other rockers, Johnny “can seem deeply uncool”. ¶

Ms Kendzior, who is apparently also a Cash fan and furthermore thinks he’s cool, posted to Bluesky “I want to shoot the author of this article just to watch him die.” Which is pretty funny, because one of Johnny’s most famous lyrics, from Folsom Prison Blues, was “I shot a man in Reno just to watch him die.” (Just so you know: In 1968 Johnny performed the song at a benefit concert for the prisoners at Folsom, and on the live record (which is good), there is a burst of applause from the audience after the “shot a man” lyric. It was apparently added in postproduction.)

Subsequently, per the Bluesky Safety account ”The account owner of @sarahkendzior.bsky.social was suspended for 72 hours for expressing a desire to shoot the author of an article.”

There was an outburst of fury on Bluesky about the sudden vanishing of Ms Kendzior’s account, and the explanation quoted above didn’t seem to reduce the heat much. Since I know nothing about the mechanisms used by Bluesky Safety, I’m not going to dive any deeper into the Bluesky story.

On Mastodon · I do know quite a bit about Mastodon’s trust-and-safety mechanisms, having been a moderator on CoSocial.ca for a couple of years now. So I’m going to walk through how the same story might have unfolded on Mastodon, assuming Ms Kendzior had made the same post about the WSJ article. There are a bunch of forks in this story’s path, where it might have gone one way or another depending on the humans involved. ¶

Mastodon “Report” menu

Reporting · The Mastodon process is very much human-driven. Anyone who saw Ms Kendzior’s post could pull up the per-post menu and hit the “Report” button. I’ve put a sample of what that looks like on the right, assuming someone wanted to report yours truly. ¶

By the way, there are many independent Mastodon clients; some of them have “Report” screens that are way cooler than this. I use Phanpy, which has a hilarious little animation with an animated rubber stamp that leaves a red-ink “Spam” or whatever on the post you’re reporting.

We’ll get into what happens with reports, but here’s the first fork in the road: Would the Kendzior post have been reported? I think there are three categories of people that are interesting. First, Kendzior fans who are hip to Johnny Cash, get the reference, snicker, and move on. Second, followers who think “ouch, that could be misinterpreted”; they might throw a comment onto the post or just maybe report it. Third, Reply Guys who’ll jump at any chance to take a vocal woman down; they’d gleefully report her en masse. There’s no way to predict what would have happened, but it wouldn’t be surprising if there were both categories of report, or either, or none.

Moderating · When you file a report, it goes both to the moderators of your instance and the of instance where it was posted (who oversee the poster’s account). I dug up a 2024 report someone filed against me to give a feeling for what the moderator experience is like. ¶

Report filed against Tim Bray for “antisemitism”

I think it’s reasonably self-explanatory. Note that the account that filed the report is not identified, but that the server it came from is.

A lot of reports are just handled quickly by a single moderator and don’t take much thought: Bitcoin scammer or Bill Gates impersonator or someone with a swastika in their profile? Serious report, treated seriously.

Others require some work. In the moderation screen, just below the part on display above, there’s space for moderators to discuss what to do. (In this particular case they decided that criticism of political leadership wasn’t “antisemitism” and resolved the report with no action.)

In the Kendzior case, what might the moderators have done? The answer, as usual, is “it depends”. If there were just one or two reports and they leaned on terminology like “bitch” and “woke”, quite possibly they would have been dismissed.

If one or more reports were heartfelt expressions of revulsion or trauma at what seemed to be a hideous death threat, the moderators might well have decided to take action. Similarly if the reports were from people who’d got the reference and snickered but then decided that there really should have been a “just kidding” addendum.

Action · Here are the actions a moderator can take. ¶

Mastodon moderation action options

If you select “Custom”, you get this:

More Mastodon moderation action optiosn

Once again, I think these are self-explanatory. Before taking up the question of what might happen in the Kendzior case, I should grant that moderators are just people, and sometimes they’re the wrong people. There have been servers with a reputation for draconian moderation on posts that are even moderately controversial. They typically haven’t done very well in terms of attracting and retaining members.

OK, what might happen in the Kendzior case? I’m pretty sure there are servers out there where the post would just have been deleted. But my bet is on that “Send a warning” option. Where the warning might go something like “That post of yours really shook up some people who didn’t get the Folsom Prison Blues reference and you should really update it somehow to make it clear you’re not serious.”

Typically, people who get that kind of moderation message take it seriously. If not, the moderator can just delete the post. And if the person makes it clear they’re not going to co-operate, that creates a serious risk that if you let them go on shaking people up, your server could get mass-defederated, which is the death penalty. So (after some discussion) they’d delete the account. Everyone has the right to free speech, but nobody has a right to an audience courtesy of our server.

Bottom line · It is very, very unlikely that in the Mastodon universe, Sarah Kendzior’s account would suddenly have globally vanished. It is quite likely that the shot-a-man post would have been edited appropriately, and possible that it would have just vanished. ¶

Will it scale? · I think the possible outcomes I suggested above are, well, OK. I think the process I’ve described is also OK. The question arises as to whether this will hold together as the Fediverse grows by orders of magnitude. ¶

I think so? People are working hard on moderation tools. I think this could be an area where AI would help, by highlighting possible problems for moderators in the same way that it highlights spots-to-look-at today for radiologists. We’ll see.

There are also a couple of background realities that we should be paying more attention to. First, bad actors tend to cluster on bad servers, simply because non-bad servers take moderation seriously. The defederation scalpel needs to be kept sharp and kept nearby.

Secondly, I’m pretty convinced that the current open-enrollment policy adopted by many servers, where anyone can have an account just by asking for it, will eventually have to be phased out. Even a tiny barrier to entry — a few words on why you want to join or, even better, a small payment — is going to reduce the frequency of troublemakers to an amazing degree.

Take-aways · Well, now you know how moderation works in the Fediverse. You’ll have to make up your own mind about whether you like it. ¶



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Mark Carney is making a cynic out of me

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What to do in a political ecosystem where, for anyone concerned about climate change or whose politics run even slightly left of centre, there is precious little choice?
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U.S. Supreme Court looks set to approve expansion of presidential powers

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U.S. President Donald Trump at the 101st
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The U.S. Supreme Court appeared likely on Monday to back a bid by Donald Trump to expand presidential powers and curtail the independence of federal agencies.

The case before the top court stems from the Republican president’s firing of Rebecca Slaughter, a Democratic member of the regulatory Federal Trade Commission (FTC).

Slaughter was dismissed without cause and lower courts upheld her claim that the move violated rules Congress put in place to protect the members of independent government agencies.

The Trump Justice Department appealed to the conservative-dominated Supreme Court and a majority of the justices appeared to side with the administration during oral arguments on Monday.

Solicitor General John Sauer, representing the administration, urged the justices to overturn a landmark 1935 ruling known as “Humphrey’s Executor” that prevented then president Franklin Roosevelt from dismissing a member of the FTC.

Chief Justice John Roberts, a conservative, referred to “Humphrey’s Executor” as a “dried husk” during two-and-a-half hours of oral arguments and said the FTC today is significantly more powerful than it was in the 1930s.

Sauer said the current situation amounts to a “power vacuum” and the president as chief executive should have the authority to remove members of the FTC and the two dozen other similarly structured independent agencies at will.

“The real world consequences here are human beings exercising enormous governmental authority with a great deal of control over individuals and businesses … who ultimately do not answer to the president,” Sauer said.

“We think the text of the Constitution confers the executive power, all of it, on the president.”

‘Uncontrollable power’

The three liberal justices on the nine-member court expressed concerns that a ruling in the president’s favour would vastly increase the powers of the executive and strip independent agencies of protections from political influence.

“The result of what you want is that the president is going to have massive, unchecked, uncontrolled power,” Justice Elena Kagan told the solicitor general.

“If there’s one thing we know about the founders, it’s that they wanted powers separated,” Kagan said.

Justice Sonia Sotomayor, another liberal, questioned the solicitor general along the same lines.

“You’re asking us to destroy the structure of government and to take away from Congress its ability to protect its idea that the government is better structured with some agencies that are independent,” Sotomayor said.

The FTC’s primary function is to protect the American public against deceptive or unfair business practices and it has taken on Apple, Amazon, Google, and Facebook parent Meta over how they wield market power.

The FTC consists of five commissioners, typically representing both major political parties, with a chair nominated by the president.

‘Not in the best interests’

Trump fired Slaughter and the other Democrat on the FTC in March, opening the door for the Republican to appoint loyalists at the agency.

Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson, a liberal, said it would be a mistake for the court to allow this.

“Independent agencies exist because Congress has decided that some issues, some matters, some areas, should be handled in this way by non-partisan experts,” Jackson said.

“Having a president come in and fire all the scientists and the doctors and the economists and the PhDs and replacing them with loyalists and people who don’t know anything is actually not in the best interests of the United States.”

The Supreme Court has overwhelmingly sided with Trump since he returned to office, allowing mass firing of federal workers, the withholding of funds appropriated by Congress and racial profiling in his sweeping immigration crackdown.

The court is to hear arguments next month over Trump’s bid to fire another senior official — Federal Reserve Board Governor Lisa Cook.

The justices blocked Trump in October from firing Cook until they could hear her case contesting her dismissal.

The Supreme Court is expected to give its decision in the FTC case by the end of June.

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American decline and Canadian complacency

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China, our proposed major fossil fuel market, has already stated it will electrify rapidly and dispense with carbon dependency. The opportunity cost of not embracing and investing in next-generation technologies will leave the country with expensive stranded assets and job losses.
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Vancouver, Toronto ‘hubs’ for organized crime linked to China, Fintrac report says

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Vancouver, Toronto ‘hubs’ for organized crime linked to China, Fintrac report says
A 2022 report by Canada's money laundering watchdog said Vancouver and Toronto are hubs for organized crime that can be linked to China. The same year, the B.C. government received a report on how it could crack down on money laundering in the province. (The Canadian Press/Rich Lam)

An internal government briefing note says Vancouver is still a “hub for China-linked organized crime” and money laundering, even as those organizations have pivoted away from washing dirty money through the city’s casinos. 

A 2022 analysis of money laundering linked to China said Vancouver was a “hub” for washing dirty cash. 

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